It’s wedding season! Let’s be real, is it ever not wedding season? If you’re like me, weddings inspire a maelstrom of emotions. We are happy for our friend(s). At the same time, a number of murkier emotions rise to the surface.
A wedding represents a lot of lovely things. It also represents a change. When closely tied to the person getting married, we are uncertain how that change might affect our relationship. We might feel anxious about the number of weddings we were (or weren’t) invited to. Mayhaps we feel left behind or lonely.
It’s an awkward thing to mull over. Weddings are happy occasions. We aren’t supposed to feel anxious or envious or sad. Right?
Regardless of how we think we’re supposed to feel, we feel how we feel. Those feelings are information that can help us set ourselves up for a more enjoyable wedding season. If you’re single and dreading navigating wedding season all by your onesie, here are three tips to help you make the best of it.
Odds are, this isn’t your first rodeo. If you’re like me, you’ve been to many-a wedding. You likely have an idea of the things that have been great for you in the past and things you wish you’d done differently. For example, is it better for you to try and find a friend to share a hotel room with, or do you need space to yourself to decompress? Is there a sweet spot when it comes to how much you want to drink? Do you need a couple of single pals on standby for text support? Set aside some time to think through what’s going to set you up well for as swell of a time as is up to you.
Don’t Be Afraid to Say No
Listen, weddings get expensive, and they can be emotionally draining. You do not have to go to every wedding you’re invited to. You do not have to go to every bridal shower you’re invited to. You do not have to take on the expense of being a bridesmaid if it’s financially unwise for you to do so. When it comes to wedding season, it’s important to set boundaries based on what is feasible for you.
Take Care of Yourself
It’s not selfish to think about what you need, especially if it enables you to be more present and joyful with your friends. Sometimes, self-care means opting for a comfier pair of shoes. Sometimes, it means taking a bathroom break instead of participating in the bouquet toss. For me, it means giving myself permission to leave when I’m overstimulated and never taking an early flight out the day after. Also, Liquid IV. It’s a game-changer.
Going through wedding season solo can be a whole thing. But what if I told you that you don’t have to navigate it alone?
We Don’t Want The Bouquet: The Single Christian’s Guide to Surviving Wedding Season will help you prep for everything cringy, upsetting, and amazing about a wedding. It’s loaded with tips and reflective questions that will walk you through things— before, during, and after. It’s short. It’s snappy. And I made it just for you.
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In the meanwhile, leave a comment and let me know your favorite and least favorite things about going to weddings solo!
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