Welcome to Episode 6, the first episode of our Unsuitable in relationship and community series. I am going to kick things off with Liz Smith. Before I do her intro, I want to specify that when I say “relationships,” I am speaking very broadly about dating relationships, but also friendships, family relationships, church community, etc.
Liz just finished her Masters in Library Science at Rutgers and is job hunting. She have worked in public relations and editorial positions for non-profit organizations including The New York Public Library and American Bible Society. She was also a member of The Blue Hill Troupe, a Gilbert & Sullivan operetta group, before becoming a Christ follower and church goer. Liz blogs as Missouri St Clair at wordpress.missouristclair.com and she also created a website dedicated to memoirs called memoirsataglance.com. Both those links are in the episode description.
Liz is going to share some serious wisdom about some of her past dating relationships, mental and emotional health in relationship, forgiveness and healing. Liz led a recovery group for women coming out of codependent relationships so she has a lot of great things to say about that as well.
Before we get started, Liz and I throw around some terms you might not be familiar with. I’m going to define a couple of them for you just in case you are new to some of this language. A codependent relationship involves one or more people with an excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically one who requires support on account of an illness or addiction. That definition is from the googs. Enmeshment is a common symptom in these relationships, which is when the boundary between two individuals gets blurred so that it’s difficult to tell where one begins and the other ends. Boundaries are emotional and physical limitations that we place on ourselves and relationships in order to maintain the health of both parties and the relationship.
If this is new territory for you, stick around to the end of the episode because we list some helpful resources.