Finding Queer Christian Community: A Crowdsourced Guide
If you’ve been searching for queer Christian communities, you’re in the right place! I’ve gathered recommendations from various sources, including some organizations I’ve personally been involved with and others shared by my followers. These spaces vary in theological stance and approach, so I encourage you to explore what fits best for your journey.
Let’s dive in!
If we haven’t met before, hi! I’m Mary B. Safrit—writer, podcaster, and relationship coach. I work with people who feel like the church doesn’t know what to do with them or those who feel “too different” to fit in. My passion is helping people find meaningful connection and family in their real lives.
Where to Find Queer Christian Community
Below is a crowdsourced list of places where queer Christians are finding community. Keep in mind that this is not an exhaustive or fully endorsed list, but it’s a starting point for exploring spaces where you might feel at home.
1. Believr (App)
Believr is a queer Christian dating app, but it’s also a space for anyone seeking connection. Adam, the founder, will be a guest on my podcast soon to discuss it in depth, so stay tuned for that! You can download the app and do some research to see if it’s right for you.
2. Revoice
Revoice is a Side B organization, which means they hold a traditional sexual ethic while supporting LGBTQ+ Christians. Art, who works for Revoice, was on my podcast, Found Family, in April 2024. They have local chapters, so you can check out their website to find one near you.
3. Your Other Brothers / Your Other Sisters
Your Other Brothers is a community mainly for men, but there’s also a group called Your Other Sisters. Both have Discord groups and Zoom calls, and though they are primarily Side B, they welcome those from various theological backgrounds.
4. QCF (Queer Christian Fellowship)
QCF is a broad and expansive organization for all queer Christians, whether you’re Side A, Side B, or somewhere in between. They offer affinity groups, community groups, retreats, conferences, and more. While some of my Side B friends have given mixed reviews, it’s definitely worth exploring.
5. Kaleidoscope (New York City)
If you’re local to NYC, Kaleidoscope is a third-way (Side C) group where the emphasis is not on a shared sexual ethic but on building a community of queer folks exploring faith. It’s a space where people with different convictions come together to encounter Jesus. I’ve been part of this group and highly recommend it.
6. Checkpoint Church
Checkpoint Church isn’t specifically queer-focused, but it’s a nerd-centric, affirming church that operates primarily online. They have a Discord group, Twitch channel, and more. It’s a fun, quirky space if you’re looking for something a little different!
7. Harbor Online Community
Harbor is a progressive, trauma-informed space that celebrates queerness and centers anti-racism. It’s designed for people exploring faith or those reconstructing after deconstructing. If that resonates with you, check out their website to learn more.
8. Journey Center Santa Rosa
Recommended by my friend Jenna DeWitt, Journey Center Santa Rosa is a center for spirituality, healing, and wholeness. They host both local and Zoom events, offering resources for those seeking deeper spiritual connection.
9. Invisible Cake Society
Jenna DeWitt also has a treasure trove of queer Christian resources on her website, InvisibleCakeSociety.com. It includes a comprehensive list of communities, websites, and other valuable tools for queer Christians.
10. Matt Nightingale’s LGBTQ+ Contemplative Spirituality Group
This group meets every Monday night and focuses on contemplative spirituality. While I haven’t been part of it personally, many of you have recommended it! The link to join can be found in Matt Nightingale’s Instagram bio.
Final Thoughts
The queer Christian community is diverse, and there are spaces for all of us to find belonging—whether you're Side A, Side B, or somewhere in between. If you know of any other groups or feel I missed something in the descriptions, please share your thoughts in the comments. Let’s keep the conversation going and help each other find community!
P.S. This text was repurposed from a video script. It was reformatted with the help of Chat GPT for ease of consumption. Everything in this blog post comes from my actual words, and I, an actual human, edited and posted them. I take full responsibility for these words. If you’d like words by me that are untouched by a robot, check out my Substack!
